Sunday, February 14, 2010
no. 035 [just another day...]
"All Need Love" by Easily Amused
Today is one of those weird "I don't know how to feel" kind of days. If you look back to my very first blog it explains why it is that I really didn't used to like this "holiday." But now that time has passed, and that I have grown up a little I can honestly look at today in a different light.
Some argue that today is a poor excuse to tell someone how you really feel. Why is today any more important than any other day? Why must there be only one day a year for love? I used to be one of those people. The way I see it now is yes, Valentine's Day may be one of those Hallmark holidays where people feel pressured to buy their significant others gifts, flowers, chocolates, the whole cliche' 9 yards, but here's the thing, I refuse to let today get me down. Why should I live in my past and see what this holiday used to mean? Why get pulled into the whole feeling of being pressured?
The way I look at it if you are really, and truly in love with someone today is just another day. Given that you may buy a rose or two, but why should you tell that person how you feel more so today than any other day? The way I see it Valentine's Day is just a reminder for us to express ourselves.
The simple answer as to why we must do this is that we all need love. There is no way around it. Whether you are trying to see if a friendship will go beyond those boundaries, or if something new can lead down that road, or if you can rekindle what you once had, speak up; you have to, because if you don't someone else will. Then what? You sit on the pool chair wondering what could have happened if you had just jumped in, that's what.
Not to refurbish the old swimming pool analogy, but as a good friend told me, "Eventually you will have to jump in, otherwise you'll just be standing by the pool eventually getting sun-burnt and looking like a tard. Valentine's Day is meant as a reminder. You don't have to give in to those cheesy cliche's, or make your girl breakfast or take her out to dinner. It's meant to help push you into saying how you really feel. But if you can't then I guess not even Valentine's can help you. But maybe the thought of someone else telling that person how they feel will. So what if you jump in and get wet? Life is about taking chances to get what you want. The worst thing that can happen is that they don't feel the same way, but at least you're not stuck in a crush going nowhere. You're free. Free to move on, free to grow. But in order for that to happen you have to, HAVE TO try. You can't win if you don't try. And if you don't try I guarantee you that someone else will, or worse, that person will. So if you have something to say there is no better time to say it than now. Because you don't know what could happen tomorrow, and for all you know right now is your last chance to say how you really feel to that person. That's what Valentine's Day is all about, Charlie Brown."
So I will refuse to give in to the cliche', and so what if I don't technically have a "Valentine." I can go through today knowing that if I die tomorrow that special person in my life knows how I feel about her...even if the circumstances won't let "us" be.
To be idle is a short road to death and to be diligent is a way of life; foolish people are idle, wise people are diligent." Therefore I will remain diligent, and hope for the best, but if the best appears I won't wait for it to come to me. It doesn't take bravery to show someone how you really feel, even if you fear the outcome. Those of you who read this should know whether or not I'm talking about you. Don't over-think it. If you have those feelings explore them, otherwise things will never get to the way that you'd like.